Borderlands | Retreats for men navigating a midlife crisis

3-Day Men’s Retreat

Corjuem, Goa

Jun 19–22, 2025

For the man who’s running hard but running low. A high-impact immersion to reignite drive, focus, and vitality—without stepping away from life for too long.

Program Details

Sharpen instincts with martial arts, unlock creativity through expressive arts, and reset with breathwork, Qigong, and contrast therapy—all set within tropical modern luxury.

Arrival and Grounding

Evening
Arrive by 6 pm, settle in, and connect with the space.

7 PM
Somatic movement session—release travel tension and ease into the body.

Night
Welcome dinner and live music concert—setting the tone for the retreat.

Reconnect and Explore

Early Morning

Martial arts session—activate the body, sharpen instincts.

Late Morning

Personality dynamics—understanding your unique structure and how it interacts with others.

Afternoon
Open time for rest, reflection, or self-directed exploration.

Early Evening
Breathwork and somatic release—integrating the day’s insights, unwinding stored tension.

Evening

Traditional Amazonian Hapé ceremony with visioning and intention setting.

Deep Dive Into Intuition

Early Morning

Martial arts session—grounding through movement and precision.

Late Morning

Intuitive singing—unlock creativity, explore emotional expression, and reclaim your voice.

Afternoon
Open time—rest, reflect, recalibrate.

Early Evening
Qigong—harnessing energy, cultivating balance.

Evening
Dream journey—navigating the subconscious through guided exploration.

Night
Dinner & Social Revelatory Games—laughter, insight, and shared moments.

Integration and Closing

Early Morning

Final martial arts session—activate resilience, followed by an ice bath to invigorate body and mind.



Late Morning

Psychological integration—revisiting key insights and mapping their application beyond the retreat.

Afternoon
Closing lunch & farewells. Plan to leave earliest by 2:30 pm.

Looking for a deeper dive?
Step into what’s next.

Looking for a deeper dive?
Step into what’s next.

Aditya, Borderlands facilitator, leading martial arts to inspire men’s strength and resilience

Facilitators

Aditya Roy

I am a martial artist, storyteller, and musician based in Moira, Goa. I’ve spent the last 25 years training under various Indian and International masters. After a lot of searching, I found myself in the Philippines to train under the legendary blade master of Pekiti Tirsia Kali, GrandTuhon Leo T. Gaje. I was lucky enough to become only the 2nd Indian to be accepted as his direct student and disciple. In July 2020 GrandTuhon honoured me with the rank of Tuhon, the highest rank after GrandTuhon in the art of Pekiti Tirsia Kali. Fewer than 50 people hold this rank, and I’m currently the youngest Tuhon in the world.

A complete fighter is one who can strike, grapple, and use weapons. I already had a long relationship with the striking art of Muay Thai before going to the Philippines. To address the grappling aspect, I started Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu in 2016 and am now a blue belt under Professor Carlos Almeida.

In May 2017 I moved to Goa to set up my own martial arts school­­—LightHaven India. To me it is a temple to the martial arts and a place where I can work to fulfil tasks given to me by my teachers by spreading the arts of Pekiti Tirsia Kali, Muay Thai, and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

Qusai, Borderlands facilitator, teaching Qigong and Somatics to inspire balance and healing in men

Facilitators

Qusai Kathawala

I offer therapeutic sessions focused on releasing trauma through mindful movement (Qigong, Feldenkrais, and yoga) and non-invasive touch (Craniosacral Therapy).

With a Master’s in Design from ArtCenter College of Design, I worked at Intel (US) researching technology’s role in the future of health. Over the past 25 years, I’ve studied, experimented 
with, and taught what is broadly called Somatics. This includes a range of practices and therapies that prioritise the lived experience in the body. Rooted in indigenous rituals and shamanic traditions, these practices have evolved and transformed over millennia, integrating insights and techniques from various spiritual, artistic, and therapeutic paths with learnings from neurobiology and modern imaging technologies.

This interest in lived experiences also extends into the interpersonal realm. I co-founded GATHR, an IRL social platform that produced unique events like surrealist slumber parties and intimacy hackathons—held in non-traditional venues. I’m really interested in the magic of authentic connections, with ourselves, others, and the environment around us.

Vishesh, Borderlands facilitator, guiding intuitive singing to help men find their true voice

Facilitators

Vishesh Kalimero

I use music as a tool to illuminate our inner landscape. With extensive travels across Asia and Europe, I have gathered unique and forgotten instruments and experiences, performing at music festivals, cultural centres, and meditation retreats. Exploring how regional ecosystems influence musical soundscapes, my work reflects a journey through diverse times, topographies, and philosophies.

I will attempt to guide you through the art of intuitive singing, fostering a space where you can explore and dream-journey, unearthing treasures from the dark, perhaps even discovering your hidden true voice.

Benjamin, Borderlands facilitator, using Expressive Arts to foster empowerment and self-knowledge

Facilitators

Benjamin Lubbock

Raised in London, I was introduced to yoga and meditation at the age of six and have since explored the spiritual teachings of the Amazonian tribes, Buddhist monks of northern Thailand, as well as yogic philosophy and practice in Mysore, where I spent many years training with BNS Iyengar.

After ten years as a yoga instructor, I have transitioned into Intermodal Expressive Arts, a therapeutic modality that uses the arts to access deeper states of empowerment and self-knowledge through self-expression. It brings together my creative passions as a musician, writer, ceramicist and spiritualist while nourishing my desire to be of service to others—to support a process of healing by rewriting old stories, to create clarity by making sense of oneself as an individual in the increasing complexities we face today.

Home Base: Avanilaya

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On the list of “most beautiful hotels in India” published by House and Garden UK and featured in the book “50 Glorious Hotels of India” published by Roli Books, our tropical modern accommodations serve as the perfect complement to the dynamic intensity of our program.

Nestled within expansive gardens and old trees, the estate offers spacious verandas and courtyards that blur the line between indoors and out. With two swimming pools and panoramic views, comfort melds seamlessly with the wilderness.

Our retreat menu blends contemporary Indian and global flavours, offering nourishing meals made with low glycemic, high prana ingredients. You can look forward to dishes prepared with minimally processed vegetables, local seasonal produce, and freshly caught seafood.

Booking Options 

Limited to just 8 men

Single occupancy: ₹90,000 + GST

Double occupancy: ₹73,000 + GST

Booking Options 

Limited to just 8 men

Single occupancy:
₹90,000 + GST

Double occupancy:
₹73,000
 + GST

What’s Included

  • Luxury accommodation
  • All transportation, including airport transfers
  • All meals
  • Martial arts program
  • Qigong and Somatics sessions
  • Ice bath therapy
  • Traditional Amazonian Hapé ceremony
  • Intuitive singing
  • Dream journey and guided subconscious exploration
  • Shadow work and psychological integration sessions
  • Live music concert
  • Pre- and post-retreat consultations
  • Group/individual Q&A with facilitators

What’s Not Included

  • Flights
  • Travel and medical insurance
  • Any personal expenses or additional services beyond the program

What You Can Expect From Us

  • Thoughtfully curated mind-body experiences
  • Experienced, articulate facilitators with unique insights
  • Personalised attention
  • Liberating and mind-expanding adventures
  • Invigorating challenge and deep rest
  • Respect for your boundaries
  • A safe space that celebrates your uniqueness
  • A customised toolbox for the second half of your life
  • Unforgettable memories

What’s Expected From You

  • A playful and experimental spirit
  • Being present, engaged, and vulnerable
  • A willingness to digitally detox
  • Commitment to personal growth and exploration
  • Respect for all participants and the space
  • Responsibility for your choices
  • Maturity to listen to your own body
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