Urdhva Retas and Midlife
In Western culture, puberty is often seen as a single, chaotic transition—a storm that transforms a child into an adult. Once it’s over, adulthood is expected to be a steady
At Borderlands, our retreat is a synergistic blend of ancient wisdom, modern science, and a dash of playful experimentation. We’ve crafted a program that dives deep into the body, mind, and soul, guiding you through three core themes—Yang (activating), Yin (nourishing and nurturing), and Psychology (depth/ego/interpersonal/transpersonal). Each modality is not only backed by traditional practices and cutting-edge research but also by our collective years of curiosity and hands-on experience.
Imagine grappling with another full-grown man, feeling the raw power of survival instincts kick in, all while knowing you won’t walk away with a black eye. BJJ is your ticket to experiencing the intensity of combat in a controlled, safe environment. Research from the International Journal of Sports Medicine shows that BJJ not only boosts cardiovascular health but also sharpens your mental acuity, thanks to its emphasis on strategy over brute force. The beauty of BJJ lies in its paradox: it’s as much a mental chess match as it is a physical struggle, a dance of leverage and technique.
If you’ve ever wondered what it’s like to face an opponent with a weapon, Kali is where you learn to dance with danger. This martial art hones your reflexes and situational awareness, making you hyper-alert to the world around you. Kali’s emphasis on weaponry teaches you to move swiftly and think even faster, with scientific studies highlighting its benefits in enhancing neuroplasticity—your brain’s ability to adapt and grow. The essence of Kali is in learning how to “fight without fighting,” a concept deeply rooted in the philosophy of avoiding unnecessary conflict.
Somatics is like having a conversation with your body—except this time, you’re actually listening. By engaging in gentle, mindful movements, you activate your parasympathetic nervous system, the body’s natural rest-and-digest mode.This practice encourages you to tune into the subtle signals your body sends, developing what researchers call the other 3 senses: proprioception, interoception and neuroception. Think of it as building your internal GPS system and oiling your kinetic chains, helping you navigate life with less stress and more ease. This isn’t just about stretching; it’s about finding joy in the smallest of movements, reconnecting with a state of relaxed alertness.
Step into the realm of energy work with Qigong and Neigong, where you’ll explore the invisible currents of life force energy—or Qi—that flow through your body. It’s like tapping into a hidden power source. Scientific studies have shown that regular practice can improve everything from respiratory function to mental clarity. Qigong focuses on external movements, aligning you with the natural world, while Neigong takes you deeper, working on internal energy pathways. Together, they balance your body’s energetic systems, leaving you feeling both grounded and vibrant.
Picture this: you’re in a steamy Russian banya, being gently whisked with birch branches soaked in hot water—known as the Platza ritual. These leaves aren’t just for show; they release essential oils that cleanse your skin and boost circulation. Afterward, you plunge into an ice-cold bath, shocking your system into a state of heightened awareness. Contrast therapy, alternating between hot and cold, has been shown to reduce inflammation, speed up muscle recovery, and even enhance mental clarity. It’s like rebooting your entire system, leaving you refreshed and invigorated.
Nature is both your playground and your sanctuary at Borderlands. Whether it’s the calm of forest bathing, the adrenaline rush of cliff diving, or the soothing embrace of ocean waves, nature’s duality mirrors our retreat’s philosophy. Studies show that immersion in nature lowers cortisol levels and boosts your immune system. As you hike through lush forests or let the waterfall’s mist wash over you, you’re not just connecting with nature—you’re reconnecting with your most primal self.
Here’s where the deep work begins. The Enneagram helps you map out your personality’s landscape, revealing the hidden drives that shape your behaviour. Jungian shadow work takes this further, diving into the parts of yourself you’d rather not see—the aspects that lurk in the subconscious. Bringing these shadows into the light is key to achieving true psychological wholeness.
And then there’s intuitive singing—a workshop where you give voice to these newly discovered parts of yourself. It’s more than just singing; it’s a way to express what’s been trapped inside, tapping into the healing power of sound. Research into vocalisation has shown it can regulate the autonomic nervous system, helping you release tension and connect more deeply with your emotions. In this combined approach, you’ll uncover, express, and integrate the pieces of yourself that make you whole.
Play isn’t just for kids—it’s a fundamental part of how we learn, grow, and heal. Research from the American Journal of Play highlights that play is the opposite of trauma; it offers a space where creativity can flourish, and new neural pathways can form. At Borderlands, our social revelatory games are designed to be both fun and deeply revealing. These aren’t just icebreakers—they’re a way to explore group dynamics, test boundaries, and discover hidden aspects of yourself and others. Play is where the magic happens, where discoveries are made, and where transformation begins.
Each of these modalities contributes to the overarching goal of Borderlands: to help you navigate midlife with courage, wisdom, and a renewed sense of purpose. By balancing the polarities of your experience—yang and yin, action and rest, mind and body—you’ll leave the retreat with a deeper understanding of yourself and your place in the world.
In Western culture, puberty is often seen as a single, chaotic transition—a storm that transforms a child into an adult. Once it’s over, adulthood is expected to be a steady
Women seem to more easily get how vulnerability can be a sign of strength. Men, hiding behind stoicism and individualism, have a hard time even acknowledging their need for support
We’ve learnt that true potency in life arises from the harmonious alignment of the head, heart, and gut. This alignment isn’t just a lofty ideal; it’s a practical approach to